secretive. If you’re out with two women and you get up to go to the bathroom, they will talk about you. Don’t believe us? Next time you’re out with two women, secretly leave behind a recording device and play it back afterwards. You’ll be in for quite a surprise. Women are talkers. And after going on a date with you, they’ll often call their girlfriends almost immediately and talk about the things you did right…and wrong….on the date.
Women are like this, and it’s time you came to this realization if you haven’t already.
Most of them look out for certain things when you date them – and without telling you. And if you fail, not only won’t they tell you what you did wrong, they’ll never give you the time of day again.
I remember once going on a date with a cute girl. We had a great first date. Then the second date we met and I had a mix tape playing. Barry Manilow’s “Copacabana” came on and she said, “Huh…I never heard a straight guy play Barry Manilow before.” I told her something like, “Well, it’s just a song on the tape.” After that, my date became distant and I basically never heard from her again.
Perhaps if I was a little bolder and said something like, “Hey. What’s wrong with that? I’m comfortable with my masculinity. There’s nothing wrong with a little Barry.”
Now let’s switch gears a bit. To succeed with women in dating, you have to know that women are not like men. They’re not going to come right out and say, “Hey, I like you. Let’s have sex.”
Women are more subtle than this. They’re more about showing “signs” that they like you as opposed to telling you flat out. It’s your responsibility as the man to pick up on their clues. If you want to kill your chances with a woman, the best thing to do is ask her point blank, “Do you like me?”
Better yet, why not just say flat out, “Hey, I’d like to have sex with you.”
When you say that, notice how all the sudden the woman ignores your response or changes the subject? That means you’ve all but killed your chances of scoring.
Next time, tell her you want to have sex with her with your actions more than words. No – this doesn’t mean groping her. It means starting her ignition by subtly touching her arm while speaking to her, brushing her hair out of her face, or taking her hand and leading her the way.
When you’re on a date with a woman, she’s also examining you very closely. From how your appearance looks to whether you pick up the right fork for the salad. While not all women are like this, most women are. So it’s always good to prepare yourself as if you were going to meet with a woman who eyes your every move.
Women will also listen closely to the things you say and don’t say. They can often detect whether you’re saying things just to please them or being your own man and speaking on your own terms.
I remember, for example, meeting this woman I really liked in college. She said she was into astronomy. And then I said I was too, even though I had no interest. The thing is: woman can pick up on whether you’re just trying to kiss up to them.
A better thing to have said would be, “Not really into astronomy. But maybe you can show me sometime why you find it so fascinating.”
When a woman hears something like this, it sets you apart from most of the other men she meets and instantly tells her that you are your own person who doesn’t need to try and impress her. Instead it says, “Hey not really my thing. But maybe you can show me sometime why this interests you so much.”
Jenna S. is SexSearch.com's fabulous "sexpert." For more dating tips from Jenna, go to SexSearch.com
